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Book/Film Discussion Group: Growing Up Coy
July 22 @ 7:00 pm - 8:30 pm
Our monthly discussions on selected books and films are a joint project of the West Linn Alliance and the West Linn Public Library. July’s film is: “Growing Up Coy”
The discussion will be at 7:00 p.m. on Thursday, July 22nd, and you can register on the Library website
The film follows Jeremy and Kathryn Mathis and their five children over several years in Colorado. One child, six-year-old Coy Mathis, is a young transgender girl. The film traces her family’s battle with the local school district to ensure her rights. The film documents a landmark 2013 case in which the Colorado Civil Rights Division ruled in favor of allowing transgender six-year-old Coy Mathis to use the girl’s bathroom at her elementary school.
The film is available on the West Linn Library’s Kanopy platform:
The formatting for this discussion will be a bit different than usual with speaker Kris Kachirisky sharing her perspectives based on a personal journey. We will then have an open discussion with a chance to ask questions of Kris and explore issues raised by the film and Kris’ experience.
When Kris and Josephine met in 1992 on the campus of Cal Poly Pomona, the English major and Geology major knew immediately they had each found “the one”. What they didn’t know is what kind of twists and turns the path before them would hold in store. After 2 kids, 3 houses, many pets, two states, 18 years of marriage and 23 years together, Kris would learn that the person she married was not at all who she thought. As they navigated Josephine’s transition to her authentic self as a woman of transgender experience, they would learn about themselves, each other, their family, and the very planet upon which they stood would shift its axis. 7 years post discovery, in an effort to create a kinder, more compassionate world for all people, Kris uses her story as a bridge to help the cis community learn more about what it means to love and support a transgender person through transition to a happier, more authentic “other side”. After telling her story and discussing how we can be better allies, partners, parents, and friends, Kris will welcome questions.
Discussion Group Guidelines
Observe confidentiality. What is said here is not to be taken outside.
Acknowledge emotions up front. There are many emotions that may come up when talking about race. It is important that people be allowed to express how they feel and for people to be okay with the discomfort. Tolerate ambiguity because we are not here to debate rather to learn through sharing.
Participate by listening empathetically as well as sharing honestly. Be sensitive to differences in communication styles and cultural differences
Avoid guilt and blame. We are all born and socialized into a society that we did not create. We all have a responsibility to work towards making things better for everyone. By acknowledging responsibility without guilt or blame, we can put our energies in a productive direction.
Speak from your own experience instead of generalizing. Use “I” instead of “they,” “we,” and “you”. We want to hear your own stories and experiences.